Philippa is an excellent lawyer, one of the best I’ve had the pleasure of working with… she also finds it impossible to say NO…

I was speaking to a friend recently, a lawyer just like me and a mum and wife.

Philippa is an excellent lawyer, very sought after and able to command any salary she wants. I can say these things about her, she wouldn’t say them about herself, she doesn’t see it.

We met for the first time in 6 months.  We don’t live far from each other, but Philippa has been working such long hours that any time she wasn’t working, she felt she had to spend with her family.

Can you relate to that particular breed of guilt?

We had a lovely evening together talking about old times and our kids and husbands.

Philippa had taken a leap in changing firms after about 15 years. The new firm had “guaranteed” a more flexible working pattern and to honour her days off.  I was keen to hear how that was going…

For the first month she worked until around 10pm every night.   I rolled my eyes…

I had expected it. Philippa is not only an excellent lawyer, but she never says NO.  I asked her what might happen if she said no to one of the senior partners.

Philippa thought about this for a while then replied that if she said no to work, they might stop passing work to her. She might lose her client contacts and be seen as unreliable by her team.  She wouldn’t be able to bill as much as she usually would and then her position at the firm might be called into question…  Have you ever had similar thoughts?

But, is this the truth?  I’m not so sure…

I encouraged her to think again about her workload for the sake of her deteriorating health and so that she has more quality time with the children I know she adores. I suggested maybe she didn’t need to say Yes to everything both work and non work related…

Something painful struck me after our conversation.  Her marriage is struggling. I got the sense she felt it was really quite serious.

You see, Superwoman is amazing.  She’s the one meeting all those work deadlines, running projects, managing teams, smashing targets.  She orders the weekly shop and sorts out the washing.  She helps the kids with their homework and makes sure they have their lunch box and school trip monies.

Superwoman is also the cause of our burnout, anxiety and depression, ill health and marital problems. We need to learn to use her in moderation only, if at all. She doesn’t look after herself and doesn’t know when to STOP. 

I’m not suggesting we stop being ambitious and driven, but that we do it another way.  In a way that protects our health, sanity and relationships.

I realised this a few years ago before it was too late, I hope Philippa does too…

It’s for women like Philippa that I created my 90-day Reset Mindset Intensive – how to create a Limitless Life. It’s my mission to help career women to create lives they love, not just survive.  

For a complimentary happiness breakthrough call with me, drop me an email hannah@authenticallyspeaking.co.uk and we’ll book a chat.  I’d love to support you on your journey to create your Limitless Life and find your authentic happiness.

to your happiness, 

Hannah x

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